You would think in today’s world where the word ’spinster’ is an archaic term and ‘confirmed bachelor’ means something very different than it used to, people would have learned how to speak to an unattached person politely. And yet, I still hear rude personal questions and offhand remarks from other people in reference to the fact that a person is not married. Most of the time, these impolite comments are made right to the person’s face. There is certain etiquette when speaking to an unmarried person. These are the five basic rules:
Rule Number One - Do not make reference to or ask how old a person is if they’re not married. In today’s world, people get married in their 30s, 40s, even 50s for the very first time. Many people today believe that getting married in your 20s may be too young and so they wait until they’re a little bit older in order to find exactly the right person. Not only are you being impolite when making references such as this but you’re being terribly out of style as well
Rule Number Two - Do not ask questions about why the person still single. First of all, people have millions of reasons for being single. Each and every one of these reasons is none of your business. Don’t ask if it has anything to do with children, being gay or sexual fears. Asking for a reason is just rude.
Rule Number Three - Don’t assume that it has anything to do with the fear of responsibility. A great many people who are staying single into later life feel that they are being very responsible. With the skyrocketing divorce rate, many people believe it is better to wait than to rush into anything that will result in devastating heartbreak not to mention financial ruin.
Rule Number Four - Do not accuse a person of being too particular. Just because you found Mr. or Mrs. Right early on, does not mean that everybody else will. Everyone is entitled to take as much or as little time to find person they feel is a compatible partner. No one rushed you, so don’t rush them.
Rule Number Five - Don’t ask an unmarried person what exactly they’re looking for. I don’t think anybody on the face of the earth actually knows what exactly they’re looking for a mate. Even if they think they know exactly their looking for, chances are the person they eventually end up with will not be anything like they thought. So is just best not to ask.
So there you have it, five easy rules for the etiquette of speaking to unmarried person. Just because the person is unattached does not mean they are any less of a person and does not give you any more right to be a pompous ass.
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