It turns out that passion, that heart wrenching emotion that many of us feel when we first fall in love, is actually biologically fleeting. There is no way to hold onto it and nor would you want to. One study showed that first-love passion is actually chemically akin to having an obsessive compulsive disorder. To maintain that level of intensity would eventually permanently mentally damage you.
So what does this mean for the everyday married or monogamous couple, who is far past the throes of passion and far into the day-to-day business of life? Does monogamy have to be boring? Is there nothing you can do to add a little excitement to your bedroom activities?
The answer is that no, it doesn’t have to be boring. Sex and your sexual relationship with your partner can be exciting. The key is to relax and have fun.
Many relationship experts agree that one of the best ways for couples to keep the spice in their life is to relax and have a little fun. Rather than looking for the passion in each other’s eyes, your best bet might be looking into each other’s enjoyment.
One way to do this is to make use of each other’s fantasies. The art of fantasy is a natural and normal part of the human psyche. We all do it on some level or another. Our sexual fantasies may be as mild as having sex with our partner while on vacation to as exciting as envisioning seducing a scantily dressed nurse.
Many people (especially men) fantasize about having sex or being seduced by a certain type of archetype or profession. These may be nurses (as mentioned above), doctors, firemen, or even referees! The number of archetypes that can tickle a person’s imagination is as varied and numerous as the number of jobs in the world.
Of course, this may seem a bit overwhelming if you are just starting. What archetype would your partner be most turned on by? The best way to find this out would be to ask your partner what they would like. Don’t be afraid to ask. If you approach your partner from the angle that you want to do something special for them and you thought this would be fun, your partner will be both flattered and tickled.
The key to fantasy make-believe is to wear an outfit that is both suggestive of the archetype you have chosen and sexually stimulating. This requires combining emblems of the profession with scanty, skin revealing clothing. For example, if you are a woman dressing up as a nurse for your partner, you may combine a tight white button shirt, with a white mini-skirt and a white hat with the traditional red cross. A thermometer and a stethoscope can help to complete the outfit. If you are a man dressing up as a fireman for your partner, you could try a tight fitting pair of black pants, with no shirt, a yellow raincoat and topped off by a fireman’s hat.
There are plenty more ideas that you can use to titillate your monogamous partner. Just remember to relax and have fun and you will be pleasantly surprised at how fast your new bedroom past-time will ignite your sexual appetite.
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